Newsletter Dec 2010 - Self Sabotage to Success

Hypnosis for New Year's Resolution

So many times we make our resolutions with the intention of giving up a negative pattern of behavior that we no longer want to live with, but however strong our intention, by the end of January we have reverted back to the same behavior pattern, and given up on our resolution.Why not consider this year using hypnosis as a means to back up your New Year resolution to give yourself a positive boost to the New Year. Using hypnosis to re-enforce our intention if we are genuine in wanting to achieve our goal will give a much higher chance of success.

Don't wait until January to start working on your goal for 2011, get a jump start on it in today, and create success for yourself.H


New Year Resolution Failure

Simply put, if our lives and actions were conducive to producing a particular result, we would probably produce it, especially if it was important to us. Our brains are wired in such a way that certain behaviors keep repeating themselves, which in turn produces results that are consistent with those behaviors. Trying to change a behavior without working on the "wiring" is like trying to convince yourself to drink buttermilk when the very thought of it makes you want to puke. Let's face it, if you hate working out at the gym, then buying a three-year contract at your local fitness centre in hopes that it will somehow shame you into working off that beer gut is nuts! (Something you may have learned from painful experience.)

The starting point to being successful at ANYTHING in life, including resolutions, is your expectations. Whether or not you expect to accomplish something will decisively impact whether or not you do. Expectations cause two things to happen. First, they stimulate actions that are consistent with the expectation. Outcomes are then produced which are consistent with those actions. And second, expectations inspire a particular quality of conversations. The surrounding environment (friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances, etc.) begins to respond to those conversations, and that environment takes actions and produces outcomes that are consistent with those conversations.For example, if you are confident that you can replace the leaky faucet in the bathroom, even though you've never done it before, your attitude will be positive and your actions will have a quality about them that produces results. You're likely to stick with those actions long enough, and learn what you need to learn, to get those results. You will find people who can help you and you will learn from them. If you stick with it, your environment will come to know you as someone who can figure things out, or at least, someone who can fix faucets. The next time a faucet leaks, or a door squeaks, you'll be inclined to build on your previous triumph and take a crack at something new.

On the other hand, if you don't think you can fix the faucet because you don't how, or you think it's not worth it to try, then your attitude, thinking and enthusiasm will be much more limited. Your actions will be half-hearted and you probably won't stick with it for very long even if you do start. People won't take you seriously, and may even decline to support or participate in your efforts. In the end, you'll produce a result that reflects all of these factors. In this case, you won't fix the faucet and you will be less likely to attempt similar projects in the future. Substitute the example of "fixing the faucet" with "losing weight", saving money", "writing a book", "falling in love"... well, you get the picture. The nature of expectations is that they determine what action we will take and the quality of that action. The expectation itself will be a dominant force in determining the outcome.

And that's what makes New Year's Resolutions so vexing for most of us. Regardless of what we say we want, or how badly we want it, or how sincere or determined we are, the "reality" for each of us is that we expect to do the same things we've always done, with the hopeful chance of some improvement. The trick to busting out of this Resolutions cycle is to find a way to think outside your expectations, because if you don't do that, no amount of strategizing or goal-setting is going to make much difference. It isn't an overnight process, but there are some steps you can take that can get you headed in the right direction.

Improve Negative Thinking Patterns into Positive Ones

Positive thinking is not enough to establish positive feelings, you can repeat positive affirmations to yourself that will certainly be helpful, but in a stressful or challenging situation, those old negative thoughts can come to surface and take over once again. The reason why this happens is that you have only reprogrammed the conscious part of your mind with your shiny new positive thoughts. Without Hypnotherapy, you may sabotage your own progress. You know the old giving-up-chocolate experience where you celebrate not eating any for a week by treating yourself to a just one piece of chocolate, and you are back to square one. This is because in your subconscious mind, the Chocolate-eating program is still running!

Once you have reached a relaxed, deep hypnotic state, you can reprogram yourself with your desired new thought patterns using Hypnotherapy, this is when you go far beyond just ordinary "Positive Thinking".

When the conscious mind needs to relate a present situation to something in the past, as it does to establish a reference point on how to react, it taps back into the memory banks of the subconscious mind to find something similar if not identical. If the subconscious mind reacted negatively in the past, this is what you will get each time this situation occurs, and even more so if the situation is exactly like the old one. Totally new situations can go either way, but chances are that if you have not changed your negative belief system, your attitudes or your assumptions, you will get a negative response, especially if this is what you created the first time you encountered a 'new' situation, no matter what it was. So what is happening to the mind when you use hypnosis? Hypnosis allows the subconscious mind to be accessed and changed.

Once changed the new positive thoughts, feelings and reactions will connect with the conscious mind so that in a wakeful, fully-attentive state, those positive thoughts, and feelings with prevail.A Hypnotherapist will be able to use post hypnotic triggers, so that if your mind ever strays into a negative pattern, this trigger will quickly re-establish a positive connection.


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